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JY,妞妞和我祝大家狗年愉快。

你们都知道妞妞是一月十六号出生的,赶了个鸡年的尾巴,所以也是属鸡的。

我在网上查了一下她的农历生日及八字:

公历:2006年1月16日(星期一)4点
农历:乙酉年十二月十七日寅时
春节:1月29日
节前:乙酉年
节后:丙戌年
八字:乙酉 己丑 乙巳 戊寅
五行:木金 土土 木火 土木
方位:东西 中中 东南 中东
生肖:鸡

本来我们的医生说要JY在一月十八号做刨腹产的手术。我妈说其实那天皇历上说不吉利,不宜吉事。我们是基督徒,所以不信这个。JY和我已经做好了准备在十八号手术。可是JY的羊水在十六号破了,所以就在十六号生了妞妞。

我们后来才听说十六号是皇历上的好日子,碰巧台湾演艺圈的小S选择在十六号刨腹产。所以小S的女儿和妞妞是同一天出生的。小S的女儿应该觉得幸运才对。;)

我们下星期会带妞妞去看皮肤科医生和她的儿科医生。妞妞有颗大的胎记在脖子上,儿科医生建议我们去看皮肤科医生,看看是不是要紧。妞妞两个星期大了,所以又要去做例行检查了。

希望大家继续为我们全家祷告。

下面是几张最近妞妞的特写。

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我们会把妞妞所有的照片都贴在网上,点击右面Link里面的“Lauren’s Photos 妞妞所有照片“就能看到。

Lessons learned so far 和妞妞一起成长

Our daughter, Lauren has been exactly a week today. It’s indeed been an exciting journey for both JY and me to care for the new baby.

I thought I was well prepared for parenthood, read many books, attended baby-care classes and also has taken developmental psychology before. However, it turned out dealing with a new born on a hands-on basis is quite different than what you can learn in theory.

I’ve learned quite a few things in the past few days. The following is the summary.

Things we are doing right:

  • We are feeding the baby the right amount of milk. According to the Baby 411 book, new borns need to take about 18-24 oz of milk daily, and Lauren is right on, although she sometimes eats more than recommended, but we are not stopping her 🙂 Guess mom needs to pump more.
  • By now, I’m the resident expert in diaper-changing. Since Lauren eats almost exclusively JY’s expressed milk, her stool is generally odorless. However, she does produce a prestigious amount of it, and this stuff sticks to everything. I generally follow the procedure as outlined in the Be Prepared book, and it works like a charm. Using that and the Diaper Champ, we can keep 20+ diapers in our room without the smell. I’m quite happy that I don’t have to run downstairs to dispose the diaper every time I change the baby.
  • I’m also quite adequate at swaddling the baby, I can wrap the baby up just right so that she doesn’t overheat yet can’t pull her hands out from the wrapping blanket. It sounds easy, but believe me, it’s not. Read the Happiest Baby On The Block book for details on how to do swaddling right.
  • We’ve created an “parent dashboard” on a whiteboard that lists all the vital information related to the baby, such as last time Lauren was fed, the amount, last time mom pumped and amount of milk in storage. With this dashboard (currently updated manually), we are able to anticipate the baby’s next move (right now it’s just crying and waking up) much better.
  • I’ve created a “dirty bottle”/”clean bottle” system similar to the one posted on Baby Bargains site. I had to run up and down stairs multiple times before we implemented this system. Now I keep the dirty bottles at one place and just throw used stuff on top of it, and clean everything once a day. By my calculation, this saves me at least 5 minutes per feeding.
  • I’ve also purchased a bottle-warmer. I know it wasn’t recommended by the Baby Bargains book, however, I found it really useful in keeping the bottle warm while I’m burping and changing the baby so when the baby is later ready for the second round of feeding, the bottle is warm.

Things we didn’t do too well.

  • The clothing we got for our baby were all way too big. None of the them fit the baby snug enough for her to stay in it. I had to purchase some more infant body-suits to put on Lauren so her hands are actually in the sleeves.
  • I have not mastered the art of “burping” – need to read up more and find out a better way to burp the baby so that she can finish and hold down all the milk.
  • Lauren is much more active at night than during the day, she wakes up more, eats more, and generally has more energy during the wee hours. I’m not a night person, and I a sound sleeper. For me to deal with Lauren at her peak of energy while I’m at my lowest puts me in a disadvantageous position in dealing with her needs. I’ll need to make subtle changes to the feeding pattern to generally nudge Lauren into my circadian rhythm so we are both happier.

Here are some more photos of Lauren. You can also find all the new photos on the same album 妞妞照片 from the previous post.
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I’ll bringing Lauren to see her pediatrician for the first time tomorrow. Hopefully things will turn out well. I’ll keep you all posted.

We are home now

Hello again.

After spending four days in the hospital with JY, I’d like to let everyone know that we (JY, Lauren and I) are home now. We are accepting visitors, however, I’d much prefer if you call me at home before coming so I can make sure the time is opportune. The baby is on a sleep-eat-sleep-eat schedule, and spent most of her waking hours feeding. So don’t be surprised if the baby’s sleeping when you visit, btw, she sleeps like an angel (most times, sometime she has a strained expression while sleeping, but I was told that means she’s having a bowl movement).

Lauren’s birth was a wonderful experience for both JY and I. It’s indeed a miracle, to feel our baby growing in JY’s tummy, and then emerging as a whole new person, it’s really gave me a sense of awe.

We delivered at Eden Medical Center, which was a great facility. The rooms was quiet and large, I was able to stay with JY in the same room to care for the baby when it’s needed. We have our own private bathroom. The nurses were truly wonderful, and we found out it’s really the nurse that matters the most in a birth because they are the ones caring for the mother and baby most of the time.

Here is the the very first photos I took of Lauren (notice her full head of hair):
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One especially great nurse, Esther, is their resident lactation consultant. She spent hours with us to show us breastfeeding techniques. It was of great help to have such an experience person to help us out because frankly, we were both clueless about breastfeeding. Here is a picture of Esther with Lauren.
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We also had two groups of visitors during our stay in the hospital. One is our pastor Jay and his wife. Here is a photo:
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The other group was four of Jiayin’s co-workers, here is a photo as well:
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We actually told our friends to wait till the weekend to visit Lauren at home because the hospital has visiting hours and rules that are limiting.

Anyway, we are home now, and are trying to get Lauren adjusted to the home environment. So far, she seems to be doing fine. I have some more lessons to learn regarding baby care, and hopefully Lauren will remain health and happy.

I’ve also created a photo album inside my photo gallery named Lauren – the beginning. You can find more photos of Lauren with her mom and other people. Although I’m biased, I must say I think Lauren is very cute, do you agree?

Please continue to pray for us to adjust to home life with Lauren.

Please call me before you decide to drop by to see the baby.

My baby is here!

Just want to let everyone know that our daughter, Lauren Alexandra Wang was born today (01/16) at 3:58am. She’s 6 pounds 11 ounces, and had an APGAR score of 9-9-9.

As many of you may have known, our due date got changed around quite a bit. It was originally 01/13. However, my wife’s OB told us the baby’s bit small, so after another round of ultrasound, the due date got moved to 01/23. Then the OB found out the baby’s in breech, she’s not coming down, and advised us to make a regular C-section for 01/18. That’s what we did.

This morning, at around 1:45am, I was waken up by JY’s screaming. She just found out that her water broke. I immediately called the hospital, and was told to get her to the delivery room ASAP. I drove JY to the hospital, trembling on the way due to excitement. When we arrived, the nurse on duty took JY in, plugged in a fetal monitor, and told us the baby’s doing just fine. She also told us that JY was not having any contractions, so there is no immediate need to deliver. She then called the OB on duty, and after conferring, they decided to perform a C-section quickly.

JY was in the Operating Room for about 45 minutes, she was put on local anesthesia, and was conscious during the whole operation. I was allowed in to hold JY’s hand during the latter part of the operations. There were quite a lot of blood, I guess that’s to be expected.

The baby emerged at around 3:58, I held the baby and showed her to JY. I then followed the baby to the nursery where a bunch of tests were performed on her.

It was the most joyous occasion in my life. Being a new dad, seeing the baby for the first time. She had a full head of hair, and was crying loudly and clearly. At this point, it’s hard to tell who she resembles more, my wife me myself, but time will tell.

I just want to thank all of you who have been praying for us, and who had inquired about our baby’s progress. I’ll post some pictures of Lauren as soon as I get a chance.

Please continue to pray for JY’s recovery and the baby.

Thank you and God bless.

My adventure with electricity part 2

Here is the remainder of the story.

Well, this introduces a problem. Out of all the circuit breakers on the panel, none was marked “Main”. That means the main breaker was somewhere else in the house.

I call my good friend Eddie, he’s very handy, and hoped for some advice. It turned out he was still at work, but his wife, Alice, was able to give me the contact information of the electrician they use. Alice also told me to call Eddie’s cellphone. I called him right away, it was just my luck he was on his way home and just passing the exit where I live. Being a good friend, he immediately diverted course, and came to my place directly.

The first we needed to do was to figure out where the main breaker was. Eddie had a slightly older house, and he told me in addition to a switch panel, he also had fuse box. So we spent the next hour and half looking for a fuse box inside the house. I also vaguely remember seeing a fuse box somewhere, it turned out later to be the result of false memory, but I didn’t know at that time.

We couldn’t find any fuse box. We then went to two of our neighbors’ houses to see if they know where their fuse boxes were. It turned out though, they never had the same problem with their circuit, and never had the chance to use anything other than the circuit breakers.

We were baffled, and a little bit demoralized. As luck would have it though, Eddie and I went back to the electrical meter, and plied open the box next to it, we thought it was locked, but it really just latched in. Anyway, there it was, the main circuit breaker, and it was tripped. After we turned on the main breaker and all the subsequent breakers on the panel inside my house, electricity was restored. However, the circuit breaker that was controlling the rooms affected still tripped when we try to flip it on. Eddie told me it could be that the breaker was shorted as well.

So the next decision is whether to have the broken circuit breaker replaced professionally or by myself. I’m not that handy around the house, haven’t had the chance to poke around much. Eddie however, has done this numerous times, and he assured me that I can do it, then showed me in detail how to replace the circuit breaker myself. I practiced couple of times under his watchful eyes, and was told I got it.

There was yet another decision to be made. I was thinking of turning off the power to the whole house again, take out the broken circuit breaker and bring it to a store so I can get the exact replacement, making sure I don’t make the same mistake as I did with the receptacle. However, this means the whole house will be without electricity for at least couple of hours, and that will be quite inconvenient for everybody.

I decided I’d actually write down the information on the circuit breaker and call OSH to see if they carry the model. I did just that, however, the gentleman on duty at the time of my call was filling in for someone, and he wasn’t very knowledgeable in circuit breakers. I was told to call back the next day when they have the regular lady (the one who sold me the wrong receptacle) available. I decided to try my luck with Home Depot, and drove there directly.

I couldn’t find circuit breaker on display that matches the model number on my broken one. I again looked for help, and again a lady came to my rescue. She found the breaker easily, telling me I didn’t really need the same model number as long as they were from the same manufacture and had the same rating (Amps). She even showed me the proper way to install a breaker with a dummy panel, which was exactly how Eddie described it.

I went home, turned off the main breaker, took out the broken breaker, installed it and screwed in the wire. It took all of 10 minutes.

However, this is one more thing to do before I turn on the breaker. You see, one should never solve a problem without figuring out why the problem happened in the first place. So I unplugged all the appliances from the wall outlets of the rooms affected. I then only turned on the formally broken circuit breaker. Then I plugged in the appliances one at the time to make sure it didn’t trip the breaker. I was proceeding happily along until I tried to plug in the power cord of the new Dell Inspiron’s power supply. I saw an arc, and the breaker tripped again. So that’s what was causing the problem.

I used a meter to figure out that the Dell power plug was actually shorted out. I then called Dell immediately, they promised to send me a replacement part. However, when I got the replacement parts three days later, I found that Dell sent me the wrong parts! Instead of a power cord and an AC/DC converter, they sent me a heat-sink and a fan for a desktop. I had to call Dell again to straighten that out. But I digress.

At this moment, we have electricity and we couldn’t be happier. I’m sure my yet-to-be-born baby would also be proud of his dad 🙂

So what have I learned:

  • It’s pays to have friends who you can count on
  • It’s pays to know a bit more about electricity and how electrical systems/components work
  • You needs to stay calm during any crisis so people around you don’t panic
  • Never give up until you find the solution

Anyway, life’s full of challenges, and that’s what makes it so interesting.

My adventure with electricity part 1

I spent a large part of my Thursday night, Friday and Saturday morning trying to fix the electrical problem.

It all started when JY called me at work on Thursday morning, she told me that the wall outlet that’s next to her looked burned-out, and that there were no electricity in two of our bedrooms. My house is fairly new, and I hadn’t dealt with anything so serious (to me at least) before. So I told my wife to stay calm, and told her I’ll take care of it when I get home. JY’s pregnant with our first child, she’s already under a lot of stress, I definitely don’t want to add to that stress.

When I got home, I found just as JY described. The wall outlet had a burned-out face plate. The prongs on extension cord attached to the outlet were burned as well.

I decided the first thing to do is to research. So I brought out couple of those thick home-improvement books, got a crash course on electrical systems. I decided to practice what I learned.

I first gathered some basic tools, removed the faceplate. The receptacle behind looked burned-out as well. I decided the first thing to do is to get a new one. So I turned off the circuit breaker that controls this area of the house, then remove the receptacle.

I brought the receptacle to the closest OSH, I was looking at all the receptacles they had there (there were quite a few), when a nice lady who works there asked me if I needed help, I was relieved that I was not alone facing my problem. She took a look at the burned-out one I brought, and told me to get the professional model, which is supposed to be much better. I asked her a bunch of questions, got the answers I needed, then went home with the shiny new professional receptacle.

Well, maybe because it was the professional model, the instruction on the box was really skimpy. One thing I noticed though, there were 8 holes in the back instead of the 4 holes on my original one. I was a bit concerned, don’t know which holes to plug the hot and neutral wires into. I tried all eight, none of which will screw tight enough to keep the wires in. I tried for half an hour without much success. The problem was it was the duplex model, it’s meant to be for pairs of hot wires. Anyway, I called OSH again, got the same lady who sold me the receptacle on the phone, trying to figure out why I couldn’t get it to work. Well, it took me on the phone for 10 minutes to figure out it’s not going to work. So I drove back to OSH, got the consumer model that looked exactly like the burned-out one. It took me 5 minutes in total to install it.

By now, I felt pretty handy. It’s the kind of invincibility one feels due to lack of understanding.

I then went to the main control panel, and flipped the switch to the ON position. However, the switch immediately jumped to the tripped position and I saw an arc. I didn’t know what to do, so I flipped the switch one more time, and the whole house went dark.

To be continued…

Photos from my new Maxxum 5D

We spent most of Saturday with JY’s friends whose daughter, Felicia, was having her birthday party.

Actually, we originally wanted to visit JY’s friend Stella and remedy a regret we had. Stella graciously offered her son Bruce, to jump on our marital bed right after our wedding. It’s part of Chinese tradition, because Stella and her husband had one girl and one boy, and that their families are all intact, having her son jump on our marital bed was supposed to be auspicious. By having Bruce jumping on our marital bed, along with dates, peanuts, gui yuan, and lotus seeds spread along the bed, we were wishing we would have at least a girl and a boy as cute as Bruce and her sister Iris. And thanks in part to Bruce, our daughter Lauren will be born soon.

Unfortunately, we lost the photos that I took during the “bed jumping” ritual. I was busy moving stuff around to prepare for JY’s move to my house, and somehow misplaced the photos.

I decided to make up for the mistake, and take some more photos of Bruce jumping on a bed with all the nuts so I staged a repeat performance. I also wanted a chance to test out the Maxxum 5D I bought in anticipation of my daughter’s birthday.

Both worked out well. Bruce was a bit reluctant at the beginning because he was very sleepy, but once he got into the spirit, he was jumping up and down without being prompted. Here are some photos of him doing just that.
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After that, we went to another friend’s house for her birthday party. There were four families there not counting JY and me, five girls of various ages, and Bruce, the only boy. We were well fed and had a great time. One thing I can tell you for sure though, having so many children in the same house can sure result in utter chaos. The children had quite a few problems, sometime they were able to resolve themselves, the other time, adult supervision was required.

It all worked out well in the end. JY and I had a great time, and that’s the last party we will attend before the birth of our baby because our baby can arrive anytime now.

I’ve linked to the photos I took at Stella’s place and during the party below. As I mentioned, I used my Maxxum 5D with a 28-135mm Minolta lens, and a 5400 HS flash. Most shots used bounced flahs. BTW, for those of you using Minolta, the 5400 HS flash won’t work in TTL or ADI mode. You need to set the AE to Manual, and change the flash output manually on the flash itself. It’s a pain. That’s why a lot of these photos are from the same distance and the same angle.

Here are the photos from the party.

Keep looking here for updates on my daughter’s progress.

We named our baby!

As many of you know, we spent quite some time searching for the “perfect” name for our baby girl.

Our last post, Naming our baby part 2, garnered a lot of attention. Apparently, the author of the Freakonomics book commented on it as well.

We were overwhelmed by all the response, and went through each one of the comment carefully before we settled on Lauren Alexandra Wang.

We don’t believe that we’d go wrong with any of the final candidates. For a detailed explanation of our the selection methodology to get to the final candidates, please refer to the Naming our baby part 2 post.

There were many good tidbits of information in your comments. We decided to settle on Lauren Alexandra Wang because it rolls off the tongue quite nicely. It also has a timeless feel to it. Both my parents and JY’s parents can pronounce it without much difficulty (they are no non-native speakers of English), although they think Alexandra is a bit long for their taste. According to the statistics on the Social Security Administration’s website, both Lauren and Alexandra are fairly common names, however, we don’t personally know anyone named Lauren, so it’s should not be a problem telling her apart from the other kids.

The name Stephen Dubner recommended, Lucienne Rachel is a great sounding name as well. We did have two concerns though. First of which is Lucienne is a bit hard to spell and pronounce for the baby and her caretakers. And secondly, we are afraid people will shorten it by calling her Lucy instead, which is not as great a name.

Atara and Aviva are both very nice sounding middle-names, however, we think they are a bit too unconventional. We want our daughter’s personality to attract people’s attention, not her name 😉

Thank you all for your help. We’ll have pictures of Lauren Alexandra Wang as soon as she’s born.

Parenting Book Recommendations 我爱看的育儿书籍

I’ve been asked by some friends as to the parenting books one should read.

I’ve put together a brief list of the books that I’ve read on Amazon, you can find the books I recommend here.

Enjoy.

In Chinese:
好多朋友问我该看那些育儿书籍。我在Amazon网络书店上收集了一些我看过而又觉得必读的书。你们可以在这找到这个 list.