Lauren’s first cold

It’s been a busy week.

Lauren had her first cold, and unfortunately, both JY and I caught it as well.

It all started on Wednesday 08/23/2006, around the time she was supposed to have her rice cereal, we noticed that there is clear liquid coming out of her mouth, and upon closer examination, we thought it was not water but nasal discharge that indicates the onset of the cold.

I immediately turned to my trusted book Caring for Your Baby and Young Child, Revised Edition: Birth to Age 5. It seems like there is not much we can do as parents other than proving her with enough fluid and plenty of rest. I called her Pediatrician’s office, and that’s what they told me as well.

On the second day, she developed a fever, reaching 102.5 degrees. I called her pediatrician’s office again, and was told to give her Infant Tylenol drops if she becomes uncomfortable and fusses too much.

Her fever lasted couple of days, and it was so sad to see her in pain. JY and I as first time parents have no idea how hard a common cold is to deal with in a baby. It’s indeed a good learning experience for both of us.

My mom, our care taker, as well as my father-in-law all helped out during Lauren’s cold, and they made it much easier for JY and I.

Lauren’s back to normal again, and please keep her in your prayers.

My favorite moments with Lauren

Now that I’ve been a dad for almost 7 months, it’s time for some reflection.

Having a child has been a true learning experience for me. The most difficult part for me was to find out way to connect to my child emotionally when verbal communication is so insufficient.

From the books I’ve read, Lauren as of now does not understand the meaning of the words I say, only the tones I use when saying them. Imaging talking to someone who has no idea what you are saying, and can only infer from the tune of your voice the meaning and intent of the conversation.

The lack in amount of information exchanged between Lauren and me does not mean the quality is any less. Some of my favorite moments occurred where no words are necessary.

I remember early on in Lauren’s life, one of my favorite things to do is to put her to bed. I usually swaddle her with a large blanket and rock her until she’s asleep before putting her on her bed. I can feel her body relax then her breathing becomes rhythmic. It was such a peaceful moment. Lately, I’ve also enjoyed watching her when she’s asleep. She truly sleeps like an angel. Her whole body is relaxed, and she sometimes has a faint smile on her face. I hope she can sense that I’ll protect her with all I have, and that she’ll always find a safe harbor at home that’s giving her that peacefulness later in life.

Another favorite moment was when she was about 5 months old, I was bottle feeding her, and she just stared into my eyes and held my gaze for what seemed like a long time. It’s the first time I thought I made an emotional connection with her, as she understood that I’m the one who she can count on, and that I love her unconditionally.

Yet another favorite moment happened recently, I just came home, and Lauren was playing. The moment she saw me, a big grin broke out on her face, and the room seemed to be lit up. It’s a moment of pure joy for me. She seems to be smiling a lot nowadays, and it seemed to brighten the day of whomever she meets.

I thank God daily for moments like these. Where I gain so much taking care of Lauren. I’m looking forward to more kinds of “moments” as she grows.

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What does an Enterprise Architect do?

My official job title is Enterprise Architect. People may not be familiar with the concept of Enterprise Architecture or wonder what an Enterprise Architect does. I recently wrote an article for Dice In The Trenches.

I just learned that Dice will publish my article, and I’m removing it from my blog and will update with a link to the Dice site once it’s published.

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Comments are now moderated

Due the excessive amount of spam I’ve been getting lately on this blog, I’ve decided to start to moderate comments for now.

To ensure your comments shows up without the unnecessary moderation, simply use the same name (exact spelling) as you posted before.

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Lauren’s daily menu

Lauren is now almost 7-month old.

We are in the process of weaning her, and here is her daily diet.

Milk (expressed or frozen from before) – 15 oz
Formula – 15 oz
Gerber Applesauce – 0.5 oz
1/4 egg yolk
Porridge – 2 oz
Gerber Rice Cereal – 2 tbsp

She seems to be happy with the diet now, and had no detectable food allergies yet.

She’s had fewer and fewer bowel movement though. Before, she had bowel movement about 3 time a day, now it’s down to once a day, some maybe even once every one and half days. Hope she’s still normal. I bought some prune sauce just in case though.

We’ll introduce more solid food and wean her off milk graduately, and we also want to give her all the frozen milk from before.

Please keep Lauren in your prayers.

Here are couple of her recent photos.
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Lauren’s recovered from her grandma’s absence

The past two weeks have been quite rough.

Lauren’s grandma has to go back to China because her Visa. JY and I were desperately searching for a care option for her that would work out for us.

Thankfully, there are two qualified family-care centers around my house, however, we still would prefer a live-in option. We searched up and down and couldn’t find anyone who’s both qualified and available. Then one week before the end of our search, we found someone who’s had experience and available for the time period, and we were delighted.

JY’s father is also here to help, but because of the problem with his burns, he couldn’t change or feed Lauren. However, he’s been a tremendous help in helping Lauren’s new care taker to meet her daily needs.

It’s now been two weeks since Lauren’s grandma left, and she had some problems adjusting to her absence, and she was crying nightly. Since then, we’ve got her to accept the fact, and that she’s back to her normal self again.

The new caretaker we hired, is quite good, he had experience taking care of his two grandson, and he’s very loving and patient.

Please keep our whole family in your prayers.